So it was time for me to write a new blog..
..I've been dealing a lot lately with pressure to please people. I think everybody deals with that. Some more than others, which is perfectly fine. Pleasing people is not a bad thing! I'm not saying that at all, all I'm saying is that people can get pressured into pleasing people when they are sacrificing their happiness because of it!
Some people just naturally have a drive to please people and make them happy. But I feel as if you should please people, but in the same aspect, keep yourself happy. Serve others, by all means do that, but don't keep serving to the point where you don't enjoy it! Enjoy helping people out, because people help you out more than you know.
I think a lot of people, especially students our age, have a problem with actually pleasing their parents. Being what they want us to be and making them happy. Which is not a bad thing! I mean, you're living with your parents so naturally you should try and please them and make them happy. But truthbetold some parents just aren't good at expressing to their children the difference between what they expect of them and what truly makes them happy.
To parents, if you got an A on a test then that's what they expect, but they would still be happy with a B. If you understand that. The fact of it is, that parents think they have to expect more out of you to get more. Instead of realizing if they asked us to do our best, found out our best, then asked for a little bit more instead of a lot, it would change our aspect about everything!
Now I know, how stupid do I look talking about what parents do when I'm only 16 and living with only my mom. But just observe how some parents go about telling their kids what they expect of them. They don't say "I expect out of you exactly what you're getting" if they did that then we would never aspire to anything! They have to tell us to reach higher and do better so that we will! But it's not to say they aren't happy with us as we are now, that's not the messege parents are trying to get across to us at all. They are completely happy with you and love you just the same, so don't ever think your parents don't care! Talk to them! Tell them how much they mean to you, open yourself up to them, and they'll open up to you.
8 comments:
Hoyt, you're one of the most insightful teens i know. But seriously, all annoying stereotyping labels aside, excellent post. I think I am caught in the people-pleasing trap myself sometimes.
YOUR BLOG IS ALL WRONG....u always try to be a people pleaser...you should always try to please your PARENTS NO MATTER WHAT...THEY BROUGHT U ON THIS EARTH AND THEY CAN TAKE U OUT!!!Just because they might not respect u or give u everything....U SHOLD RESPECT THEM ANYWAYS. YOUR A PLEASER I KNOW!!! EVERYONE IS SO DONT WRITE ABOUT THINGS THAT YOU DO. Pleasing people should make u happy all the time...if it doesnt stop pleaing them....DONT BE A HYPOCRITE!!!!
Read my 2nd paragraph! The one that starts with "Some people just naturally have a drive to please people and make them happy." Which is obviously you! It's not a bad thing though! And you're absolutely right, you should try to please your parents. And most of the time if you choose to please them you'll be miserable yourself, but if you look at the 3rd paragraph when I say, "...you're living with your parents so naturally you should try and please them..." and I never say anything about not pleasing them. The next sentence after that I go into the topic of how parents go about telling their children how proud they are of them. Never do I say, "You should not please your parents if it doesn't make you happy." I'd be stupid if I said that! But you do bring up a very good point and I'm sorry I didn't clear that up while I was writing the post! Thanks!
Takes a lot of courage to post anonymously... If you're going to call someone a hypocrite, then you might as well own up to it so they can respect your rebuke. Otherwise, you might just be some random person stumbling from blog to blog. If you're going to correct someone and it have any significance, then you need to show the person that the source is credible, and that usually starts by identifying yourself. Just a thought...
who are you trying to point out here? and are you saying it's good to please people or its not good....and if its good to do both then why are you even writing this? what's the point?
Who says I'm trying to point out anybody? If you actually read the 2nd paragraph it starts out with, "..I've been dealing a lot lately with pressure to please people." Notice the emphasis on the "I HAVE" part. And then later in that same paragraph you didn't read it says, "Pleasing people is not a bad thing!" So yes, I'm saying sometimes it IS good to please people but in some cases it's bad. And the point of it is that everybody isn't as smart as you obviously are so they think that they have to please people and sacrifice their happiness because of it. But.. some people might have more courage than you and not post anonymously...
GOod blog hoyt!!!!!
i like it? lol .. i thnk
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